“I don’t like school!” It’s a phrase many parents hear at some point. When your child expresses dislike for school, it’s important to listen and help them find ways to enjoy their day. Here’s how you can help turn those frowns upside down:
1. Listen with Open Ears and Hearts:
Avoid dismissing their feelings: Instead of saying, “You have to like school,” try, “Tell me more about what you don’t like.”
Ask specific questions: “What part of the day was hard?” or “Was there anything that made you feel sad or frustrated?” This helps you pinpoint the problem.
Validate their emotions: “It sounds like you had a tough day. That’s okay, we can figure this out together.”
2. Find the Fun:
Highlight the positives: Even on tough days, there’s usually something good. Ask, “Was there anything you enjoyed today?” Maybe it was recess, art class, or a funny joke.
Encourage friendships: Friends make school more fun! Help your child build friendships by encouraging them to participate in group activities or inviting classmates over for playdates.
Discover their interests: Does your child love science, art, or reading? Encourage them to join clubs or activities related to their interests.
3. Problem-Solve Together:
Identify the cause: Is it a specific subject, a bully, or feeling overwhelmed? Once you know the cause, you can find solutions.
Talk to the teacher: If the problem is academic or social, communicate with your child’s teacher. They can provide valuable insights and support.
Break down tasks: If your child feels overwhelmed by schoolwork, help them break down assignments into smaller, manageable steps.
Create a positive routine: A consistent morning and after-school routine can help reduce stress and make the school day feel more predictable.
4. Build Confidence:
Celebrate small victories: Acknowledge your child’s efforts and progress, no matter how small.
Encourage a growth mindset: Teach your child that mistakes are opportunities to learn and grow.
Promote self-care: Ensure your child gets enough sleep, eats healthy meals, and has time for relaxation.
5. Make Learning Fun at Home:
Incorporate learning into everyday activities: Play educational games, read books together, or explore nature.
Create a positive learning environment: Make learning fun and engaging. Avoid putting too much pressure on your child. Remember, every child is different. Be patient, supportive, and work together to make school a positive experience.
– Dave Miner is a licensed professional counselor for Health West in Pocatello, ID. He works with elementary-aged patients through a partnership with School District 25.
